I want to tell you about something I do every day after I drop my daughter off at school. I sit in my car and pray. I’ve done this everyday since she started preschool. The prayers were simpler then, mostly that I wouldn’t worry so much, that she’d be safe, not get other kids germs, make friends and love to learn. When she went to kindergarten my prayers change, Sandy Hook made me think outside my little world. I still prayed for friends and fun but now I was asking for her to stay safe and healthy, beyond germs, and that all the children, teachers and staff would be safe as well, not just at her school but all schools. Sometimes I would just sit and not know what to pray just asking that God knows what our children need at this time. For awhile I wanted to invite others to pray with me as well, anyone who wanted to uplift our kids and staff through prayer. I envisioned us all holding hands on the sidewalk in silent prayer, all faiths standing together to show we love and support our school, our community. But, I’m an introvert, and shy, so of course this never happened. I also worry a lot and thought it might draw attention if it actually caught on. Evil might see, and hurt what we’re trying to protect. So I keep to myself. I use to move my car because I worried some of the parents talking on the sidewalk might knock on my window and ask if I’m ok. I’m ok, I’m just praying. I don’t move anymore, I’d probably get really startled if someone came up to me, but I’d tell them what I’m up to, it’s too important not to. Our world is broken, history keeps repeating, and sometimes it feels like there’s no way we can fix it. The only way I personally know how to help right now, is through prayer. We may not be together in front of your students school asking for protection, but when classes starts tomorrow, will you pray with me? You can be in your car, at home, work or with a group of parents talking outside the school (maybe you’re even one of them wondering what I’m doing in my car). Even if you don’t have kids, you probably have a school nearby that needs your prayers. And I’ll be in my car, just praying with you.
Colette and I went shopping for her Christmas outfit last night. I asked her the other day what kind of outfit she would like. She told me nice pants and a pretty top or maybe a jumpsuit. Wait, what? Where has my little girl gone? There was no poof, no sparkle, no glitter to cover everything she touches. This has been happening for awhile now. She loves skinny black jeans with a fun top and a high pony. This would be her uniform everyday, if she had enough black pants. She still loves to dress up, she’s just changed her style. Colette knows what she likes and she’s more modern tween than Disney princess now. We oohed and ahhed over all the sparkly dresses and things covered in fur, she really likes fur, but it wasn’t what she wanted this time. Colette actually ended up picking something that will go great with what I plan to wear this holiday season. I’ll probably make her take a million pictures which she will love, and hate, because she’s ten and her emotions change constantly. She fell in love with a dark blue lace top, we had to leave it behind till we found some pants that would work, but ended up coming back for it with skinny white cords. The corduroy is so soft and velvety. She may have ditched the sparkles but made up for it in texture. We still need to get some flats and probably a sweater, I have a feeling a little sparkle may end up there yet. But, if not that’s ok, because my girl sparkles all on her own, and she’s always had great style.
I love celebrations and vacations. I love the dreaming, planning, list making (and checking things off), packing and prepping. It’s wonderful to have something to look forward to. Recently we’ve had two celebrations, my nephews first trip to Disneyland and an Ordination Service at our church.
Since my family is Disney crazy we all jumped at the chance to go on Nathaniel’s first trip. You never know how a 1 year old is going to react to the characters, noise and all the people, but he seemed to love every minute of it. The cousins loved showing him all their favorite rides and treats. Planning a first time trip is really exciting and planning a big family group can be a little much if you’ve never done it before. Here are just a few of my thoughts.
- Wear matching shirts or have a theme. For our first day we had a pirate theme. Themes are great for the big group picture and if you’ve lost track of your group you know what to look for in a crowd.
- Have a printed schedule so everyone knows what the important things are and when to show up, hand this out in advance so people aren’t surprised day of. Don’t schedule your whole day just the important parts that you want everyone to be a part of. This way everyone still has some freedom but knows what’s expected too.
- Make at least 1 restaurant reservation per day. It’s good to know you’ll all get to sit down at one point in the day and have a decent meal. The rest of the day can be churros and dole whips, or whatever your favorite Disney treat is. Arguing over what to eat is taken away too because you made the decision on where to eat before your trip. If you have any food allergies/sensitivities like our group does, the sit down restaurants are the best option and they make sure you can have a safe dining experience.
- Disneyland will be a crazy mess. Too many people go expecting it to be perfect and magical. I’ve found that when I go expecting it to be really busy and I don’t hope for any extra Disney magic, I find the magic anyway. You can’t make your kids have a magical time, even if the cast members constantly tell you “Have a magical day!” Enjoy the crazy and the magical, it’s all part of the experience.
After we got back from our last trip to Disneyland my dad and I had to start planning an Ordination Service for one of the women who grew up in the church. She completed her seminary training and Ordination Council. It takes a long time to become and American Baptist pastor and it seems even harder for women, even though our denomination welcomes women as pastors and leaders. It was time to celebrate the hard work and devotion it took to get to this place in her life, and the exciting new plans God has for her. Pastoral Relations got things rolling and I ended up figuring out decor. I couldn’t find much help online with ideas for a reception after the service so I wanted to make sure what we came up with was online for anyone trying to come up with ideas for a similar event. Since we are a Chinese Baptist Church and the new Reverend will be a missionary to Japan soon, we went with a modern Asian feel. It all came together beautifully and it was a wonderful day to celebrate all the hard work it took to get to this point and support her as she travels the path God has for her and her family.
I don’t have any big celebrations to start planning right now. But I should probably start making my lists for Christmas soon. Then my 40th won’t be far away. Time to start dreaming up some more ideas, I can’t wait to see what they will be.
I’ve been away from my little blog for awhile, ok a long time, but I’m ready to start telling you what’s going on with my family again. We’ve been super busy and enjoying summer so I thought I’d recap what we did.
Colette finished 4th grade with great grades, lots of awards and a wonderful job at recital. She had a really good year.
We went to Capitola for vacation and had a really nice relaxing trip. Usually our trips are pretty structured but we just relaxed and Colette slept a lot, we all did. Colette also found a love for Pizza My Heart and they have gluten free pizza now so we could all enjoy it. She would have eaten there every day.
After a few days in Capitola we went over to Monterey and relaxed some more. We went to the aquarium and ate more ice cream, we ate way too much ice cream on this trip. But it was nice to take it slow and just spend time together.
We’ve celebrate a bunch of family birthdays and did crazy things like dye my daughters hair red. She’s been wanting to do this for a couple years and I finally gave in since she really needed a hair cut anyway.
We had VBS and dance intensive the same week, and then more dance the next week too. But the week of VBS was crazy. Jeran was at Google for a mapping training and then he came home for a day and then headed to LA to defend his dissertation. We survived though and Jeran was almost done with his paper.
One day my crock pot just decided to not turn on, it was dead. So, during Prime Day I got an Instant Pot. I’ve only made 1 thing so far but it was pretty good and I’m sure with this busy school year coming it’ll get a lot of use.
We made a family trip to Hanford to eat ice cream. Last year when we tried to go it was so busy we gave up. This year we went super early and the kids played outside while we waited.
My parents wanted to take Colette to Universal since she likes the Harry Potter series now. They had a great time and spoiled her a lot. This girl is so lucky she got chose by the Dragon Heart and got to pick her wand out at Olivander’s. I think I’ll ask Colette if she’d write a post about the trip. While they were in LA we went up to Napa to celebrate our anniversary. We had a great time and really enjoyed our tour at Schramsberg winery.
School started today and I’m sad to get back to the schedule. I like the lazy summer days with nowhere to rush. But I know this will be an exciting year. Jeran’s almost done with his dissertation, it needs to get published, and then he’ll be Dr. Ott. Colette has a lot of dance and we’ll be off to celebrate my nephews first trip to Disneyland soon. We’re having some Disney withdrawls, last year we had a pass and went 22 days. It was a little crazy and we stayed away for the summer but I have a feeling it’ll be a Disney year again, we just can’t stay way too long. I don’t think we’ll go that many times again. So that’s what we did this summer. I hope you had a great one too.
It seems we’ve had something going on every week since my daughter’s birthday. So, I thought I’d just recap what we’ve been up to.
We went to Disneyland for Colette’s 9th. The whole family came, aunties, uncles, grandmas and grandpas, from both sides and of course the cousins. She loved having everyone at Disneyland with her. Colette loves Tsum Tsums so I decorated our room with a tsum banner and made he a little birthday surprise bag full of tsum tsum treats. We also made favor bags for everyone that came and delivered them the night we got into town, of course they had a tsum tsum theme too.
Jeran and I tried out the Old Town Clovis Wine Walk. It was fun, a little warm though. If you every do a wine walk wear flats and bring a tote bag. I saw a lot of women with really sore feet at the end of the night. The bag would be nice to carry the papers around that get punched at each location, plus you might want to pick up some info on a winery and you need somewhere to put all that stuff.
Colette gave her first presentation at school. They had to do a report on a family member, that as recent as possible, immigrated to America. They did Google slides about the country they are from (Colette did Portugal) and had a show and tell about their family. It was a lot of work for a 3rd grader but she loved setting up her slides and she presented so well, I was really proud of her.
We threw my sister a baby shower. It was a Neverland theme. So we had Pirate, Indian and Mermaid tables. It came out really cute and I got to make the dream catcher for my centerpiece. We weren’t sure if she’d be able to attend since she’s on bed rest. So, we set up a hammock and Sarah got to recline through the event. It was a nice chance for her to get out of the house, besides doctors appointments.
We took off to Morro Bay for a 1 day trip just to get out of town for a little while. We went to the aquarium, had lunch then ice cream and headed back home. We hit horrible traffic, because of that we actually stopped at Jack’s Cafe. We always talk about stopping there. It’s just an old roadside restaurant (the James Dean memorial is there too) but it was a perfect stop for us, we needed to get out, and the food wasn’t bad.
Last weekend Colette auditioned for her studios mini competition team. She’s been part of the Jumpstart teams that stay local and anyone can join, but they’re starting some mini groups that travel and her teacher wanted her to try out. We’ll soon see if she made the team.
So we’ve been a little busy, but it’s been fun too.
A little while ago a few of the younger dance teams at our studio were invited to come along with the big girls to a dance convention. Usually the younger girls stay local for competitions, but this was different. The Elite teams were going to compete but the younger girls were just going along for the experience and the convention. This would be 2 days of dancing. Colette was lucky, she would be in an age bracket that only danced half day. It was a good introduction to the experience, but still 4 straight hours of dancing is a lot, I wanted to make sure she really wanted to do this. Needless to say she was ecstatic to be invited and insisted we go. We booked our room at the Anaheim Hilton and started researching dance conventions. I found there isn’t a lot of information out there about dance conventions so here’s what I learned this first time around.
- Book your room at the convention site. We did this just because we weren’t sure what to expect but this really is the best. You can get to the early call times easy and also get your tired dancer back to the room fast when the day is done. Our team didn’t compete but for the ones that did it’s a really long day with classes in the morning and competition in the evening. It’s just easier to be close to your room, and dance supplies.
- Dress for success. I got Colette a couple new outfits, she needed them anyway since she’s grown since the beginning of the school year. I let her pick out something that made her feel confident. And she rocked her black and hot pink outfits all weekend.
- Be consistent. Everything I did find online about conventions mentioned keeping a similar look the whole time. This way the teachers remember you. So Colette had a color scheme and a hairdo that was always the same. She had double dutch braids that kept her hair out of her face but also was different. Most girls didn’t wear braids so she stood out a little more.
- Be comfortable. Wear something you can sit on the floor in. Since Colette was in the mini sessions, most moms stick around and watch, and there are not enough chairs in the room. Just camp out on the floor, you’ll probably get a better spot this way too.
- Bring snacks. Your dancer will be hungry and only get minutes between sessions. So, bring drinks and easy things to munch.
- Pack a picnic. Another thing I learned before hand was lunch at conventions are a nightmare. They don’t get a lot of time and the options are not the best. We could have done without this since Colette’s classes only went to noon the first day at 1 pm the second but I think the picnic was the best idea I had. My husband is gluten intolerant and Colette should stay away from dairy so I packed 2 picnics. The first day we had a Mediterranean chicken picnic with a rotisserie chicken, hummus, olives, tomatoes and pita chips or gluten free matzo. The second day we did a charcuterie platter with cured meats, olives, pickles and gluten free baguettes. It was really simple and it didn’t require much refrigeration, we did have a fridge at the hotel otherwise this would have been hard to do. It was also nice to know what we were going to eat. All we had to do was find a space for our lunch. No arguing over where to eat and no waiting,which was great because Colette was starving.
- Have Fun! Since Colette had half days we got to spend some time across the street at Disney and got Annual Passes since we’ll be in Anaheim a few times this year. You’ll probably see a lot more Disney posts because of the AP. We also hung out at Downtown Disney with Colette’s best dance friend, eating junk food and buying tsum tsums.
It was an adventure and we all enjoyed it so I’m sure we’ll be doing it again next year.
My daughter loves everything sparkly and fancy. When she was little she wore a dress and tiara every day. We had glitter everywhere and a huge collection of tiaras. We had to get a display shelf for them. The tiara collection has shrunk some, only the favorites are still on the shelf, but now we’re starting to add more.
A few years ago we watched the Miss California pageant, we saw little girls escorting the contestants on stage. They dressed up and had crowns too. Colette asked how did they get to do that, I should be there. I looked into it, the Miss America organization has a little sister program to the Miss America Outstanding Teen program. It’s non competitive and all the girls get to be a princess. Colette had just started dance team at that time and all the dates for the Princess Program and dance competition were the same. It took a couple years but finally dates worked out and Colette got the chance to be a princess. She had a great time getting to know some current title holders, having princess lessons and participating in their own crowning. The girls also learned a dance that they would perform at the Miss Clovis and Miss Fresno County pageants. I wasn’t sure how this experience would go but Colette loved everything. It gave her another chance to perform and to speak on stage. In school they are working on public speaking by reciting poems every month but the pageants gave her a chance to talk about herself in an on stage introduction, under bright lights, in front of a lot of people she didn’t know and be confident about it. This is what I want for her, to be confident in herself no matter what situation she’s in and comfortable speaking to anyone from an individual to a crowded theater. So, if working to add more tiaras to her collection will increase her confidence then I’m all for it. She’s already told me “I’m a Central Valley Princess, but someday I want to be Miss America.”